There is a well-known feminist slogan, “A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle“. The suggestion being that a man is not necessary in a woman’s life for her to be happy and fulfilled. At least, that’s how I read it.
And, while I would never say that women don’t need men – because we all need each other in this life regardless of gender – I realize that I have been waiting for a bicycle to come along to make my fishy life go swimmingly.
Last September, my boyfriend made a decision to end our relationship and go back to his ex-wife. Rest assured, dear reader, that this blog is NOT about that particular drama. But, the journey over the past 8 months has made me realize that subconsciously I have been waiting to meet a partner to do and enjoy all the things that I want to do in this lifetime. It’s not that I was waiting for my knight in shining armour but just that I was waiting for someone to ride along with.
And, because I was doing that, I was missing the joy in riding alone. And, sometimes missing the ride altogether. So, enough of missing the present by waiting for a future that may or may not happen.
Don’t get me wrong – I am not throwing in the towel, giving up hope of meeting someone and settling into a life of eccentric spinsterhood. Hell, no!! Although, a little eccentricity could be fun. But, I don’t know if I will meet someone or not. I can’t predict the future.
What I can do is figure out what I want to do right now, today. And, have the courage to get out there and do it.
And, because I hope one day to be a very old lady with more adventures forgotten than remembered, I thought I would chronicle the struggles and joys of this single life.
Maybe someday this blog will end with “and so marriage ends my single life” or maybe “Single woman passes away in a once-in-a-lifetime adventure”. Who knows?
But, for today, it starts with this fish heading out into the big blue ocean.